Why Lemonade is Good for Your Health


Caution: Taking the time to reflect on where you are, how you got there and where you would like to be may result in weak knees and the awareness of lemons flying at your crown from out of nowhere. However, doing so is necessary. We all must perform self-evaluations. I mean, the world around you evaluates you every millisecond of each day; might as well get to know your true self. If you don’t, you could miss the opportunity to dodge a fast pitched lemon and find yourself searching for your crown, instead of sipping on a cool drink of lemonade that you made from it. Champagne splitz in my bag…SWAG.

Face the “makings of you” with courage, LOVE and open arms. There can be only one you and everything that you have encountered and endured has made you the force to be reckoned with that you are today. Be fierce, fearless, faith-filled and forever in flight…growing stronger daily.

I don’t care that it took Beyonce’s Formation to light the fire for you Queens, just keep it burning with your self-awareness and self-love. No matter how the day ends, you will be a part of it so make your position a powerful one. Don’t lose yourself. If you do, you have lost it all. Sip that. 😉 #IJQ365


Who are you?

2015-12-05 10.25.04My Personal New Year (a/k/a/ birthday) was in October and it was in preparation of this personal growth milestone that I decided to be serious about what I wanted out of life and what I expected from myself. It was during this time that I realized that just a year ago, I didn’t know as much about myself as I thought. I realized the many traits of self and stripes that I had earned while traveling through my life’s war zones I admired, but there were some that shook me to the core; bringing me to my knees. My perspective was being tweaked and I became more focused on gratitude. “Be thankful, Q. You are blessed. It could always be worse”, the message I was sharing with myself. I made a conscious effort to be honest about where I had been, who I had become, who was on my team and who would be coming along with me to the next level. That in itself became overwhelming and before I knew it, I was shaking off the residue from another shit storm. All I could think was, “Ain’t nobody got time for this! I need to figure out my food and drink menu for Thanksgiving.” Please believe me, a year ago, that would not have been my mindset. There would have been a long period of silent suffering. I pushed though, nonetheless.

The next week or so passes and I’m strolling my feed during the holidays, doing what most people, and all bloggers do and I find myself enthralled by the sadness and devastation of terrorist attacks, injustice, and then those damn Patti pies. As I reflect on how these pies were making serious noise; knowing I love me some sweet potato pie, I had no interest in anyone’s pie. Hell, I was over here, in my own world, getting real with myself and damn near choking to death on Humble pie, Self-awareness pie, Stop Bullshitting pie and Go Get Your Life pie. If I never see or taste another pie, it won’t be too soon. Just kidding! Having never tasted Ms. Patti Labelle’s pie, if someone brings me a slice or mom decides to grace me with one of her classics, I’m all for it, with no crumb left behind.

But back to my original message: The world has and always will have so much going on in it, as will our personal lives. Strolling feeds pull at your heart strings, but we need to be informed. However, it became apparent and upsetting noticing what we respond to; what we give our serious attention to, which is completely out of order and jacked up for the most part; to be frank. Social media, thanks to the Pop Culture reporters and Paps, our sick fixation on others and what they are doing with their lives, earnings, and bodies allowed our prayers for humanity to become short lived. It led me to think about how so many of us don’t know ourselves. We are not in tune with what makes us, what it is that we really want out of life, let alone what needs to be done to receive what we want once we figure it out.

While we’re bragging on how fabulous our life is or complaining about what it isn’t; while we are overlooking why we entered and had to come through our most recent storm, instead of what choices we made to end up there in the first place; while we are complaining about going to work, making someone who doesn’t have a job feel terrible; while we are being full of self…lost self, we are keeping the world screwed up. It really does begin with self.  Make a change. For me, it was becoming honest with where I have been, who/where I am today, all that made me…the sad and unworthy relationships with “friends” and boyfriends; you know, all that wasted time? It was during just that portion of reflection that I decided to stand on my principles, walk and plan with them, breathe them. I am Queen is more than an affirmation, more than a revised edition of my first book, it is my walk. I’m just Q (IJQ). Who are you?

I’m sure you are fabulous.😉



Oh the many benefits and wonders the World Wide Web has placed at our fingertips. A world where travelers caught a glimpse of different cultures, but regular folk and dreamers only watched on the news and read about in the newspapers was now exposed. Not only are resources unlimited now, but celebrities are made overnight, injustices are revealed and to plainly state: everyone’s in your business. In my opinion, the greatest reveal is how we as a people are so compassionate and yet so unforgiving. Thoughts and actions that were once concealed under the “What happens in our house stays in our house” rule nearly cease to exist. Granted this exposure and worldwide involvement has saved many lives and evolved us, but I ask you this, are we overstepping our boundaries when we save someone who doesn’t want or feel they need to be saved? At the end of the day, we are our brothers/sisters keeper but do we save our fellowman and tell them “Deal with it; Trust us. You don’t understand right now, but you’ll thank us later after loads of counseling and prayer”? Your thoughts…

IJQ Speaks and #ImListening

Moving according to your God approved plan and not the world’s plan.

Since the beginning of the year, I have been holding tight to my resolution of staying focused; focused on what it takes for me to have peace and enjoy my journey; focused on all things that are important to me; focused on embracing change with a smile.
Recently, I decided to make a move for my betterment…literally. See, the phrase “to each its own” reigns true for me. What I may see as wonderful, the next person may view as awful, and no matter the perception, it reveals what side of the fence you are on: optimistic or pessimistic. And what side of the fence you’re on determines how joy-filled your days will be. I have committed to loving my loved ones more and making time for a phone call and giggles.

There were so many times that I looked in the mirror and didn’t recognize the person being reflected. I wasn’t smiling on the inside. There was no glow. That is not like me, but it can be anyone. I began to take notice of all the amazing people and events in my life and thought: “Life is too short and precious to issue an APB for your true reflection.” Life is too short to not put forth an effort for your long lasting happiness. Life is too short to miss out on the thrill of building a life with the one you love. You may have heard and will hear me say many times over that life is made up of moments…small irretrievable moments, thus making them all the more valuable. Don’t miss your moment to make a move. Pray on your decisions and take a step of faith. We can’t live for John, Jane, our parents, peers or anyone. Live right and live strong for your children. I am solely focused on my family structure and that means having a growing spirit, open heart and mind, a successful career and lots of love and laughter. Life will be hard, but that’s okay. There will be pain and there will be tears, just make sure you have the best company for the good times and the rough spots…Note: He is always available and there.

Change happens around us everyday, beyond our control and we must be prepared to accept it and embrace it when it comes. Life is so very short and it is imperative that we make our days count. Make your days ROCK! Life is also way too short and precious to close your eyes to the opportunities for success at life and love. I am not standing in front of a mirror right now, but I can say I am surely beaming. Commit to moving forward commit to having peace and joy.

Tune in to Life and Love Under New Management this Friday, April 1, 2011. Visit http://www.blogtalkradio.com/qspeaks for episode details and archived shows. Feel free to forward letters and questions that you want read and discussed on the air to: qspeaks@universaldeep.com

Peace, Love and Empowerment to you all!